Who are you and what do you do?.
I think that we tend to define ourselves by what we do, and success by the amount of money and material possessions we have. But what happens if we are out of work, between careers or retired?. Probably then, we would feel not useful, needed or valued.
I consider myself loyal, truthful and caring, and I am drawn to the same kind of persons. I wouldn’t like to have a boyfriend who picked me up in his last model BMW or Ferrari, invited me for lunch at the most expensive restaurants and took me to other expensive places during the weekend, to finally find out that the car is rented and he owes a big amount of money on his credit cards.
Why do we pretend to be something we are not, or to live a life we can’t afford?, Is that the price we need to pay for being accepted and included?.
In the children’s book Miss Moo Goes to the Zoo, Kelly Graves tells the story of a cow that is not happy living in a farm, convinced that she can’t bear her boring life anymore, she decides to leave and search for the excitement she is missing.
Eventually she founds herself at a zoo, where she is not welcomed, and her self-esteem starts to decrease. Fortunately for her, the zoo keeper takes her to the petting zoo where she founds the perfect home.
I think this can happen to anyone, we can get criticized by the lions, giraffes and elephants in our lives for not being as they are, or for not doing what they do; but is up to us believe if we can even be measured by those standards.
I know am worthy because of who I am, no matter what gets or not done any given day, and I would definitively be friends with someone like myself. I hope this is a statement that you can also hold true regardless of what other people think, or what is the amount of your paycheck any given day.
Also, I believe that our true-self will shine in the environment we are meant to be. Don’t be afraid to leave the farm just because it is comfortable, remember that the petting zoo can be just around the corner.
Love and value yourself and others will follow.